(To explain to any third parties... Years ago R Shui Haber's esteemed father, Rav Yaakov shelita, had him push me to put my thoughts about the introduction to Shaarei Yosher down in a book. It took me years, but the result was Widen Your Tent (Mosaica Press, 2019). In that introduction, Rav Shimon Shkop tells you to base your Loving kindness not on self-negation, but on realizing that we are all one. Not to look at it as doing for another, but as doing for me and mine. Just as it is easier to sacrifice for one's children than for a stranger, it is easier to sacrifice for that "stranger" the more one sees their connection to that person.)
"Don't be selfless. Be self-full."
Central thesis of a sefer I saw.
(To explain to any third parties... Years ago R Shui Haber's esteemed father, Rav Yaakov shelita, had him push me to put my thoughts about the introduction to Shaarei Yosher down in a book. It took me years, but the result was Widen Your Tent (Mosaica Press, 2019). In that introduction, Rav Shimon Shkop tells you to base your Loving kindness not on self-negation, but on realizing that we are all one. Not to look at it as doing for another, but as doing for me and mine. Just as it is easier to sacrifice for one's children than for a stranger, it is easier to sacrifice for that "stranger" the more one sees their connection to that person.)
Interesting! Thank you for sharing this.
Beautiful!